Rejection can be a daunting thing, particularly in the aftermath of a rose-tinted approach to dating. We’ll be honest with you, though—the dating scene’s never been all sunshine and arcing rainbows ‘cross your future. It’s important to prepare for heartbreaks, setbacks, downward spirals and seeming end-of-the-world’s—and most of these come in the harrowing form of rejection. It can sour you up, put a nasty dent on your self-esteem and even compel you to shrink away from dating at all.
We’re here to tell you how you can overcome all that, and here’s how:
Do not let rejection define you
Everyone’s gotten rejected at some point in their lives, but those stinging occurrences don’t need to reflect who they are. And the same applies to you.
In fact, the people who endeavour move on, as tough or strenuous as it might feel, are often the ones that end up successful in the end. Take rejection in stride, evaluate it calmly, and then move on.
Tweak your perspective
It may do you good to assess the rejection from another point of view. It all boils down to your state of mind.
Be confident enough to consider it their loss, and not yours. A rejection isn’t always a reflection of your worth. At the end of everything, they chose to let go of the opportunity to get to know you better.
Enlist an emotional anchor, or support group
Certain rejections are harder to cope with than others. Often, how hard they hit depends on the circumstances involved, or even your emotional state.
If you find the blow too immense to deal with alone, it may help to seek help from your friends, or any trusted person in your life. We will often need company to ground ourselves and keep our thoughts rooted in sense amidst turbulent changes—and normally, rejections don’t fall far from this umbrella of circumstance.
It will prove exceptionally helpful to have a circle you can count on—to pick you up when you’re feeling down.